12.14.2006
You'll know what to do
Did you ever have anyone tell you or hear anyone say, "When you have kids of your own, you'll know what to do." That is a lie. I know my daughter very well- I am an attentive, loving, intelligent mother- but there are times that I get knots in my stomach trying to figure out how to respond to her behavior. She is an intense child. I am sure the teeth are contributing to the behavior she is displaying. I just DO NOT like not knowing what to do. My emotions are a bit sensitive too, much more with this pregnancy than with Ella. I do not like that either, it makes me feel fragile. Ella and I have cried together several times the last few days. Anyway, I keep trying to remind myself that this is a phase, but at the same time, I do not want to excuse bad behavior or down play something that we need to address now, so it is not a problem in the future. Chad is great to talk to, we actually are good at parenting together. In the past, we have not done well trying to tackle a task together- we just ended up arguing, but we have done well so far with Ella and have not butted head over what to do with her. I suppose that also has to do with just being together longer, we do better at a lot of things than we used to. My mom called yesterday and her and my dad decided to coming next week for a few days before Christmas. I am REALLY glad to have them coming. Then Chad's parents come so that will help me, and Ella, to have some change in routine and people around. There are at least 2 teeth almost through- so I really think some of her frustration will subside. Tomorrow is a fresh day.
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3 comments:
It's a big old guessing game every day. And just when you think you might understand the tickings of one kid another one comes along who is TOTALLY different. You just can't win.
Want some Zoloft?
I feel your pain, Sweet Amanda! On the door of my pediatrician when the kids were babies was a sign that said, "Parenting is the hardest job in the world." Amen! They just don't come with a manual. We followed everything thing in the books and radio programs and seminars ad infinitum and had challenges we never imagined possible.
Amanda, you brought up an interesting topic. Personally, I keep setting standards on how I'll raise my kids everyday, though I have none yet. It seems like everywhere I look I see a bunch of misbehaving children, whose parents do not even care. I was raised with the occasional spanking or two.Each time it happened it was well deserved, but I am sure many people would disagree with me on the spanking issue.
The bottom line is YOU care. You question if you are doing the right thing. You question whether it is indeed bad behaviour that needs correcting, on your child's part, or if it is just a phase. That caring nature makes all the difference. Don't doubt yourself too much, you are doing an awesome job!
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